Bro's Body Language: Is He Feeling Me
My friend Nikki over wrote an article about a bad red flag dating situation that unfolded into an all out horribly disgusting nightmare.
The woman she described in the piece met a guy online and went out on a date with some garden-variety douche, and she somehow hung on earnestly to this douche because A) he was “hot”, B) she saw him as a challenge, and C) because she wanted to get laid.
The woman continued on the date, in a “resistful” dance if you will, hoping a pile like him would morph into a mound of fertile soil that would sow his pitifully infertile seed into some cultivated orgasmic harmony.
However, during the entire date, the guy did nothing but act obnoxious, be insanely rude, and act like a chaffed up dead bloated rotten ass. I’m not sure how or why she insisted upon proceeding with what was destined to be become a blunderous painful memory, from which she’d endlessly kick herself silly for the rest of her life. But she did and yeah, it was THAT BAD.
No man, no matter how hot or horny you may be, should be allowed to hang around when he’s an ass descending from way beyond down under Shit City.
To avoid a situation like hers altogether, we need to address early warning signs via body language.
Body language is VERY effective. Animals in Wilderness Kingdom need only to use body language alone to get by. They don’t engage in logic, reason, or verbal epithets to instinctively decipher when another creature is dominant, subservient, is a threat, or is ready to be swallowed up for dinner. Even though human beings live in a civilized world, where much of our business is conducted through voice and reason, OUR BODY LANGUAGE is the determinant of many interaction.
Body language of the male sort is the easiest to figure out. Male communication is normally as plain as day, and men don’t hide behind some sort of distractive curtain of mysterious magic circus acts or safe illusionary skydiving parachute jumps without a chute. Men simply don’t beat around the bush when it comes to chicks they like or don’t like. Pure and simple.
So the burning question when you meet a guy is:
Is he feeling me? Or not?
He’s feeling you when he’s falling all over himself acting like an awkward “child”. He’s not when barely notices you’re even there.
Remind you of every storybook chick flick romance when exhibit A) girl enters room and exhibit B) guy is falling all over himself, bumping into things, is insanely nervous and spills hot coffee all over his shirt? It’s funny but it’s true.
When a man is enamored with the woman in his presence, he doesn’t know how to act and he fears looking stupid. Even though he tries his best, he can’t help but to be a mind-scrambling mess.
Mind you, not all men are going to behave this way but chances are, if he is, he is completely mad inside over you.
In contrast, if a guy acts indifferent, acts like YOU should feel privileged to be in his presence, and acts like you owe it to him to be the one whose attentive and falling all over herself, HE IS NOT INTO IT. When he’s acting bigger than you and bigger than life itself, HE IS NOT TRULY INTERESTED IN YOU.
Don’t try to rationalize a dude’s shitty-bad behavior. YOU’RE NOT GOING TO WIN HIM.
He’s feeling you when he faces his whole body in your direction and does any little thing he can to touch you. He’s not when he avoids looking and touching altogether.
When he likes you, he’s going to want to brush his leg against you, touch your hair, and when he sees you approaching, he is going to do a 180 degree bodily turn and face you. He’s going to smile, make brief eye contact (not of the aggressive type) and he’s going to stand closer to you (but not too close) to be near you.
When he’s NOT feeling you:
He’s not going to want to be around you AT ALL, much less try getting near you. He’s going to remain unmoved by any advance you try and make and will be inattentive to your presence. If he isn’t an all out rude ass like obnoxious douche date guy above, he’ll be marginally approachable yet short and tolerant, while he won’t be putting out any fronts that he’s interested. In addressing you, he’ll turn away, won’t make eye contact and will be like he is with his bros as in, “Alright man, I’ll check you later then”.
He isn’t going to try to confuse you because he himself is completely certain and clear that he wants nothing to do with you romantically. If he’s barely acknowledging you exist, he truly barely even notices you’re there at all.
He’s feeling you when he is totally oblivious to all other distraction. He’s not when he’s looking for anything and everything to distract him.
In Nikki’s article, she described how El Doucho was on his cell phone for nearly the entire date, hadn’t even asked the girl for her number and barely hinted around at going out again.
The cell phone thing IS HUGE. If a guy is sitting there, on his cell phone texting, answers it and proceeds to talk without excusing himself, or has a problem being courteous about it in any way, HE IS NOT FEELING YOU.
In fact, a man WHO IS feeling you isn’t going to have that sucker out at all but maybe to check the time and THAT’S it. Why? Because if you’re a man’s main focal point, he isn’t going to be interested in anything else anyway. And he sure has hell doesn’t want it to seem as though he is. He doesn’t want to jeopardize his chances of making it known to you that he really likes you and that you’re a big priority to him.
He’s not going to be an ass who doesn’t have the decency to not be rude. PERIOD. If he is, he’s not the man for you anyway.
He’s feeling you when he assesses your body with his eyes (yet not in a PIGGISH way). He’s not when he doesn’t even look at it at all.
I’ve heard and seen on more than one occasion that a guy who is interested in you has assessed your body long before you’ll ever realize he’s done it. Of course he’s going to look, he wants to imagine what you got goin’ on underneath all those clothes however, he isn’t going to let you see him checking it out like a savagely raging Amazonian pig. Why? Because a guy who really likes you doesn’t want you to think he’s just another exploding bag of sperm (turn off at 10 o’clock). Instead, he’ll let you see him look at it subtly so that you know he approves.
On the other hand, if he ISN’T interested HE ISN’T EVEN GOING TO LOOK. He isn’t going to look at you, your body, or the air surrounding it. In all actuality, if he does look, it’ll probably be right past you and in the direction of another girl he actually wants to look at. Hell, he may even ask you for your opinion on how to approach this other chick he’s checkin’ on for whom you’ve become totally invisible.
Catch my drift?
Women can be just as confused as men as far as verbal, non-verbal and “instinctive” cues as to whether a guy is truly interested in them or not. Unfortunately, no matter how much we want to like someone and we want them to like us back, there are signs we simply shouldn’t and can’t ignore. It’s a level playing field out there when we take off our “blinders” and see through people and their angles via behavior, good and bad. Fortunately, body language, especially of the male sort, is the most easiest language to read.
Later, I will discuss female body language cues for men. In the meantime, enjoy studying up and reading his body language like an open book.